The Secret to Achieving and Maintaining Your Ideal Weight

Boston Women’s Journal August/September 2006

By: Judith Swack

Have you struggled with weight all your life? Do you find dieting and exercising physically, emotionally, and mentally stressful? Have you had your thyroid tested and there is nothing wrong with it? Do you know what works for you and yet … you don’t do it? If you are like me and many of my clients who found self care to be a burdensome project, you are probably unconsciously (or consciously) caught in a toxic belief system (TBS) that says, “Neglect Is a Way of Life and It’s All About Neediness (Neglect TBS).”

A TBS is a pattern that runs through family systems for generations and through whole societies and cultures. The Neglect TBS is characterized by the cliché, “children are to be seen and not heard.” It is characteristic of families and societies that neglect children’s feelings and needs because they do not consider children to be people. These children conclude that what they want and need does not exist in the universe and fear that "I cannot get what I need to survive." It doesn’t take long for these children to decide that neglect is just a way of life, and they feel chronically and secretly needy.

What do children do in a situation like that? They internalize the family pattern of neglect by neglecting themselves and later their children. They also come to believe that they should not have, and are even bad for having needs. To deal with the overwhelming feelings of grief, hopelessness, despair, rage, fear, and powerlessness children develop coping strategies such as:

• Burying the grief and heartache under anger and burying the anger under indifference.
• Making up stories that assume that what you want and need does exist in your family but there is some reason why you are not getting it. Typical stories include,
A. I don’t deserve to get my needs met because there’s something wrong with me.
B. I don’t know the rules on how to get my needs met.
C. Making excuses. My parents really could give me what I need if only they weren’t sick, alcoholic, depressed, overwhelmed, abused in childhood, too busy, etc.
• Becoming compulsively independent and self-sufficient.
• Settling for what you can get, doing without, or not even bothering to ask for what you need.
• Becoming a control freak.
• Suffering in silence.
• Taking care of everyone else’s needs before your own and feeling guilty about allowing anyone to care for you.

Sadly, during childhood and later on in life, this pattern prevents people from being able to receive love, nurturing, help, and support that is available elsewhere. And it is practically impossible to lose weight and maintain it if you’re programmed to neglect yourself.

Fortunately, I developed a short process using Healing from the Body Level Up TM (HBLU^TM) methodology to heal this entire pattern from the conscious and unconscious mind, body, and soul. When we cleared this pattern, my clients (and I) easily changed eating and exercising habits to successfully lose and maintain that weight loss without stress. We also started easily and naturally taking care of and nurturing ourselves in other previously neglected areas of our lives and got amazing results! Here are a couple of examples.

Lori
Lori always had to watch her weight but lost complete control and gained 40 pounds during a nasty dragged-out divorce. She came to me feeling completely burned out, angry about the divorce, and very frustrated about her weight gain. It usually takes 2-3 sessions to clear a Neglect TBS. Two weeks after the first session she reported that she had more energy and hope about the divorce situation. She had also lost two pounds by simply stocking up on fruits and vegetables and eating those whenever she wanted a snack. After the second session she stopped even wanting to snack, lost interest in chocolate, and effortlessly lost 15 lbs in the next 4 months.

Sally
Sally was overweight all her life. She had a hundred excuses for not exercising and claimed to be too busy to pay attention to eating right and dieting according to her nutritionist’s recommendation. After we cleared the Neglect TBS, Sally started following the diet and found a delightful exercise class that she now attends regularly. Interestingly, she also decided to finish her Master’s degree thesis that she had put on hold for 5 years. She finished the thesis in three months and passed her exam one month before the deadline!

What is Healing from the Body Level Up (HBLU^TM)?

HBLU^TM is an innovative, rapid, and powerful new mind/body/spirit healing methodology developed by Judith A. Swack, Ph.D., a Ph.D. Biochemist/Immunologist, Master NLP Practitioner, and Mind/Body Healer. HBLU^TM integrates biomedical science, psychology, applied kinesiology, hypnosis, Neuro Linguistic Programming, and other energy psychology techniques with original research on the structure of complex damage patterns. HBLU^TM is so effective because:
1. The client’s deepest wisdom dictates all the healing work and is thus specific for that individual,
2. It has a menu of well characterized damage patterns and easy protocols for clearing them,
3. It has a comprehensive menu of quick and effective techniques, and
4. It clears blocks to success at the conscious, unconscious, body, and soul levels simultaneously.

HBLU^TM helps people rapidly achieve the results they want to live full, happy, healthy, and satisfying lives. Maybe it can help you, too.

Dr. Swack and her associates work with individual clients in person or by phone. Healing from the Body Level Up, Inc. is located at 56 Pickering St. Needham, MA 02492. To start healing this self neglect pattern, call our office at 781-444-6940 to order a copy of the Achieve and Maintain Your Ideal Weight audiotape set, to order a free information package, and to book an appointment. For more information about HBLU^TM visit our website at www.HBLU.org